Meta: Reading Girolamo Riario (Da Vinci's Demons) as on the Asexual Spectrum
Meta exploring Da Vinci's Demon's Girolamo Riario's sexual and romantic orientation. I head-canon him as somewhere on the asexual spectrum. Not necessarily completely asexual but possibly grey-asexual or demi-sexual, maybe with some sexual attraction to all genders; I also think he could be biromantic and/or demiromantic and the meta looks at various facets of his identity. For Asexual Awareness Week 2016.

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Ace-Spectrum Awareness Week
a-spec-tacular is hosting/promoting events for ace awareness week 23 October onwards. (Click that link more for, summary follows.)

Sunday, Oct 23rd: Ace-Spec Positivity - Primarily text posts that express specific or general support/positivity for aces of any kind
Monday, Oct 24th: Ace-Spec Aesthetics - Ace-spec-related aesthetic images, preferably in the standard 3x3 format of most aesthetic posts
Tuesday, Oct 25th: Ace-Spec Character Headcanons - Any characters you headcanon as ace-spec, with a description of how & why
Wednesday, Oct 26th: Personal Intersectional Experiences - Personal stories about experiences of other marginalized identities intersecting with ace-spec identities
Thursday, Oct 27th: Ace-Spec Stories - Stories written based off of one of three provided prompts, all ace-spec-related
Friday, Oct 28th: Art Contest - Ace-spec pride art; can be feasibly anything, but must remain hand-made (any medium, including digital, is fine!) and keeping with the theme of ace-spec pride! The deadline for entries to this event will be Oct 27th
Saturday, Oct 29th: Ace-Spec Pride Selfies - see link below for more details

This link has more details about the writing prompts, art contest rules, selfie ideas, etc.

Submissions can either be sent directly to the blog, or submitted to the event’s tag: #Ace-Spectacular-Pride
Submissions to the blog must also include image descriptions for accessibility purposes.
The blog states that you’re welcome to post and submit anything up until & during the event itself, but they will not be featuring anything on the blog itself until the actual event date.

I'm planning on writing a character meta for Tuesday :)

Psychology Today Article
Found this article online today: Asexuality Is a Sexual Orientation, Not a Sexual Dysfunction

tardis explodes
I just joined the community today and thought I would say hello. I'm 31 years old. It took me some years to become aware that I am asexual and then a couple more years to become comfortable enough to own it. I'm very romantic and for years just viewed sex as a necessary evil to be in relationships with others. I never enjoyed it or initiated it, just sorta shut my mind off and went along with it. Now I will never do that again. I'm in a relationship now with a man who is sexual but knows my identity and respects it. It's funny to me in a way that it took me as long as it did to realize I am asexual, because I remember being distinctly aware when I was as young as 16 that I didn't find sex appealing at all. I remember vocalizing this to my mother and she, normally one of the most open-minded people you ever would have met, became aghast and kept insisting I'd like it when I found the right person. I remember taking her word for it at the time. I wonder if I either hadn't told her or she'd had a different reaction, if I would have been able to come to grips with it then instead of about 12 years later. Who knows? I am where I am now and that's what's important.

Hello all fanfiction readers and writers out there

I recently started a fanfiction group here on livejournal for people interested in reading or sharing asexual themed fanfiction, as I noticed the group that already exsisted wasn't active. You are all free to join!


hey, i'm new
Hello everyone, i´m so glad i found this community. I have always been kind of confused about my sexuality. I´m currently 19 years old and i've never had any sexual attraction. I used to think that i was weird and something bad was going on with me, specially now that i'm in university and my friends are getting into more 'serious' relationships, which i'm not interested about at all. So, one day i was watching some random videos in youtube (as usual) and i found a girl talking about her being asexual. At first i was shocked because the term was new to me, but as soon as she started explaining about how she felt towards others, that she doesn't has sexual attraction for others as many people do, i felt identified instantly. I looked for more information about the topic and gladly, i found this community.
I would be really happy if you can give me some feedback about books or maybe movies about the asexual community, it would be awesome!
Thanks for reading this!

The CDC apparently hasn't noticed us yet
Just saw a report today. Between 2011-2013 The CDC surveyed over 10,000 people ages 18-44 and asked questions about sexual attraction, sexual experiences and identity orientation.

The word "asexual" does not appear in the report.
The idea of not having sexual attraction to anyone doesn't appear in their report, really, either.

Their options for identity? Straight/homosexual, homosexual/gay/lesbian, bisexual and "don't know." (About 1% of their sample either answered "don't know" or did not answer that question.

There's no way for an asexual to answer that question. I "know."

Apparently they used to also offer a "something else" category but stopped in 2008 because less than 1% of people identified as "something else" and so that didn't affect their distribution of sexual identity.(

For attraction, they offered "only attracted to men," "mostly attracted to men," "equally attracted to women and men," "mostly attracted to women," "only attracted to women," and "not sure."

There's no way for an aromatic asexual to answer that question either, because I'm definitely "sure."

Here's hoping the CDC will decide to count us next time?

Advice/help please!
I have a query I need help with. So I feel sexual attraction, however I really would prefer a relationship that is just as close as a sexual relationship, but not really with sex? Basically what I'm trying to say is that I would have to be in a relationship with someone for a long ass time to then be okay with doing anything too sexual. I don't think that is asexual and I don't know why I feel the need to label myself something, but it's incredibly awkward when I like someone but then have to push them away because I know that would put them off? I really hope this makes sense.

What should I say?
I need advice on something. I have been thinking that I might be asexual or even greysexual. Sex is not really something i think about, but that is not the issue. There are two people in my life that i spend a large amount of time with. They have both asked me if  I think I will ever want to have sex with someone at some point because right now i am still a virgin. I told both of them no i did not think i ever would because it is not something that i want to do. They both looked at me like i am crazy. Now they have a tendency of bringing up how i am going to have sex and turn into a "freak". They then proceed to describe every graphic sexual act that they apparently can imagine my "future freak" self enjoying. The terms "gagging on it" and calling my partner daddy are some of their tamer "prediction". I try to laugh it off, but it makes me very uncomfortable. I know if i say anything one of them will just tell me that they are joking and not to get so buthurt about everything. What am I supposed to do?
I'm sorry if part of this was a little non PG.


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