Yay always nice to see more gender-neutral people. Can't help with the socializing sorry - I'm in Oz :-)

Thanks through! Read your latest entry in this community and I laughed. Tampons are the first things I ever started using merely because I swim everyday as a kid. =)

And I can confirm that some people dream of having sex with their favorite actors... *eye roll*

Moving on...

hello, are you me? I see myself as "straight," yet I consider myself an "it," yet I'm actually female!

unfortunately I'm on the other side of the country. :( boooo.

Thanks through! =) I used to have one in real life, but she's now back in Europe. Distance is hard.

Just have to not give up...

I think gender and sexuality get mixed up because the easiest parts of gender are wrapped up in sexuality. For example, some women wear short skirts and make up in order to attract a sexual mate. Or some men will bulk up their bodies and wear tight shirts in order to show off those muscles in hopes that it will get a few pairs of panties wet. For those people, their gender and sexuality are very tied up.
Even in the lesbian and gay community there are gender performances tied up in sexuality. There are 'studs' of the lesbian community and 'bears' in the gay community and plenty of other sub groups where gender ties into sexual expression and attraction.

However, there are many more attributes to gender such as how same gendered group gets interact and mixed gender groups interact (mannerisms, patterns of speech, touch, space given...), relations in the workforce, and so on.
However, in such a sex driven society where our commerce is even driven based off sexuality, that part of gender performance is viewed as primary. I think in the asexual community since we don't get as wrapped up in gender performance as a means to attract sexual partners, our gender identities can be more fluid or at least less important in our lives.
Gender and sexuality are two seporate issues and cannot be viewed as one but they are attached sometimes. In this way I think that people that are heterosexual and homophobic are the most tied down to their 'gender roles' as they relate to their sexuality. Next would be lesbian and gay people who have distinct sexual desires based on gender. People of all sexualities with wider gender preferances in a partner fall in between with pansexuals and asexuals on the extreme polls. Our attractions and relationships tend to be much less gendered than people who lie in between on the spectrum.

I hope that makes sense. I have no science to back me up, just observation.

This makes sense anyway. =)