Ok, so these past few days have been pretty rough for me, so I might be being overly sensitive, but I got to thinking about a few things? I hope I don't come off as whiny.
Anyway, so I work at a pretty small place, where the total employees average 8. From those 8, 6 of them are in relationships, the other 2 (me being one of those 2) don't date for reasons of our own. In my case, because the more I think about it, the more unappealing dating seems to me.
So, you're probably asking yourselves, what's my point?
My point being, the relationships around me are toxic, at least I perceive them as toxic, and I don't know if it's because I am on the outside looking in that I can see some of the things wrong, or is it because I have no experience that some things I perceive as bad are perfectly normal in relationships?
I have a friend who's completely given up her autonomy. She's ok with whatever her boyfriend says, and she thinks it's her making these decisions, so when I pointed out some things that I thought were wrong w/ another couple at work, she never quite took me seriously, She mainly tried to explain the issues away, like once when she said that the little annoyances become less as time goes on, simply because love.
That to me sounded very bad, but like I said, I have no experience in relationships, I've never dated, and I am fiercely independent, I don't like for people to tell me what I can and cannot do, and I do understand that there is supposed to be compromise in relationships, but all I see from these relationships around me is all one-sided compromises. But I am unsure if it's just my myopic view on love?
Maybe I'm just seeing things as overtly bad, but to me at least, when you can't make a choice for yourself, because the other person "knows better" and even though this is what you want, you do what X says, I don't think that's a healthy relationship. Or when you feel like staying home but end up going out just because your significant other is not mature to understand that maybe you just don't feel like mingling w/ your/their friends that day, but you end up conceding in order to avoid a huge fight?
All those things don't paint a "healthy" picture for me.
I guess what I am trying to say is, are there other inexperienced people that might have seen relationships that to you seem unhealthy, but can't really speak from experience?
To make a point, I've seen other relationships where I had not perceived this unhealthiness, (not that that makes me an expert either way.)
- Other people dating around you....