Tags: asexual conference

Advice/help please!

I have a query I need help with. So I feel sexual attraction, however I really would prefer a relationship that is just as close as a sexual relationship, but not really with sex? Basically what I'm trying to say is that I would have to be in a relationship with someone for a long ass time to then be okay with doing anything too sexual. I don't think that is asexual and I don't know why I feel the need to label myself something, but it's incredibly awkward when I like someone but then have to push them away because I know that would put them off? I really hope this makes sense.

Asexuality on CTV

Last night I got to go on Canadian national television to (very) briefly talk about asexuality, the WorldPride-affiliated asexuality conference I'd just been at, and the asexual community's experiences and goals.


Watch the video here:

CTV News Channel: 'A similar fight'

Julie Sondra Decker, author of The Invisible Orientation, discusses asexuality and the conference held on it held in Toronto on Saturday


Asexuality Panel at Creating Change

So here’s my writeup for what went down when I went to Atlanta with several other asexual people and spoke on the Asexual Voices Panel at Creating Change 2013.

The Panel


Our panel was called “Asexual Voices.” Four of us—me, Tristan, Rin, and M.—gave personal speeches and took questions and answers in front of a group of about eighty people. And considering how many panels there were to choose from, it was awfully flattering that so many people decided ours was the most interesting or the most important.

My speech focused on my aromantic identity, my realization that I was asexual and my invention of the orientation for myself in the vacuum where there was no community as a teen in the early 1990s, and my decision to start trying to reach out and support the community when it grew. Tristan discussed his experience as a gay gray-asexual person and his journey toward discovering asexuality. Rin discussed their gender identity, asexual identity, and relationship experiences. And M. talked about their understanding of asexuality from a young age, their mature understanding of it, and their gender experience.

Our questions and answers from the audience were submitted in writing (so we wouldn’t have to embarrass anyone or wait for them to find the right words), and they were all pretty common questions. Someone actually asked about what allies shouldn’t ask, which was nice. We got to discuss privilege and the queer community, our relationships, the difference between sex drive and sexual attraction, and tons of other things.

The Caucus

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Fundraiser for Asexual Panelists attending Creating Change conference

Hi everyone! If you haven't heard yet, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force's giant queer-issues conference, Creating Change, is happening in Atlanta, Georgia in January . . . and asexuality will be represented among the panels.

We're sending a small group of experienced speakers to the conference, and we'll have a couple panels addressing asexuality, allowing us to reach the larger queer community and its organizers. It's a really huge step in our visibility work, and you can help.

The panelists--myself included--could use a little help covering our hotel fees and the costs of printing our handouts/brochures. Here is our fundraiser on Indiegogo where you can donate, and there are rewards for certain dollar amounts. On Day 1 we're already more than halfway to our goal, so it looks like it's going to happen. Here is our promo video as well:

If you can't spare a donation, you can still help by posting our fundraising link to Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, or wherever you socialize. Our presence at the conference is going to be a great opportunity to educate, and we'll also be able to learn some valuable lessons taught by a diverse group of organizers, which should lead to greater visibility and increased resources for us. Thanks for checking it out!
September 2010
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WorldPride Asexual Conference Talk

Hello to anyone here who was at the Asexual Conference or WorldPride marching group in London this weekend! It was great to meet so many people!

Video of my talk on the beginnings of the asexual movement including the founding of this LJ community is now up on DailyMotion here:


Please feel free to pass these on to anyone who wasn't able to make it to the conference.

I'm also planning to record an extended version of the talk including high resolution versions of the slides and a transcript for release in the next few weeks.

I understand that the rest of the conference was also filmed and is currently being edited for release some time soon.